7 Things to Do When Life Gets Overwhelming

There are ebbs and flows in everyone’s life. The past few months have been categorized for me in one word: Overwhelming. Not always in a bad way, but overwhelming just the same. Sometimes I deal with things in a positive way, and sometimes I run around like my hair is on fire. Here are 7 of my best tips for when life gets overwhelming:

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1.) Learn how to say no: I discuss this at length in my book, but learning to say no to every opportunity, social engagement, and freelance job has helped me to feel less overwhelmed. It is simply impossible to be all things to all people, and being stretched thin does not make me a good wife, mother, or productive member of society. I would rather have a few things on my plate and do them WELL as opposed to too many that don’t get done right. One of the biggest decisions I had to make when Emma Kate was born was to step back from a management role at work that I enjoyed. It sucked but I knew there was no way I could do the extra work to the best of my ability while caring for a newborn.

2.) Prioritize: Sometimes we just need a little reminder of the things that are really important to us. If family is important to you like it is to me, then you may need to rethink some of your extra circulars so you can spend more time with them. If you really want to be able to workout more, then going to bed an hour earlier and cutting off the TV may work for you. Sacrifices may need to be made, but if it’s for something you really care about then it is totally worth it!

3.) Pray/devotion/quiet time: This is the most important one for me. When I am feeling overwhelmed and stressed out, it is probably because I am not starting my day with quiet time and prayer. It just starts my day off right and gets me in the right mindset as I face problems and anxieties. Does this mean every day goes perfectly? Absolutely not, but I am more likely to respond more correctly when I have started my day with quiet time.

4.) Ask for help: I need to look in the mirror and say this one. I can sometimes struggle with not asking people for help. I know everyone is busy and has their own problems to deal with, so I don’t like dumping on other people or asking them to help me. Sometimes though, its necessary to get back to a good place, and I know my friends really don’t mind, and the issue is with me!

5.) Cut out the time suck: Social media is a wonderful thing, but for me it can also be a big time suck. What starts out as getting online to write a sponsored post for work, turns into scrolling through feeds for ten minutes. That’s ten minutes I could be doing so many other things, and I sometimes do this multiple times a day! I don’t know what your personal time suck is (talking on the phone? TV? video games?) and I’m not saying you shouldn’t do it at all, but sometimes I know I can tend to go overboard and end up wasting precious and valuable time.

6.) Time blocking/Buy a planner: I am a very visual person, so if I have a million things to do just floating around in my head, I am bound to forget one of them and when one ball drops, several others seem to drop in quick succession! Writing things out in a planner and even going so far as to time block my day hour by house, or in thirty minute increments can help me to stay focused and on task when my mind starts to panic at all I have to do.

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7.) Release control: Oh so hard my friends. Sometimes, crappy things happen that I have no control over. I get my feelings hurt. Something happens at work that upsets me. I get sick. I have a bad night’s sleep. All of these things can be a recipe for disaster if we try to control them and spend our time worrying about things we can’t change. It has served me well in the past to take  step back and remind myself that I am not in control of everything, and that’s a good thing! I often need to stop worrying and just let it be. Let go of the tight grip I have on situations. It’s not going to change anything except to stress me out and overwhelm me.

So inhale. Exhale. Think about which of these things may help you the next time life gets overwhelming and see if it helps. I hope so!

QOTD: Have you tried any of these tactics? Did they work for you?

Excitement

Ok y’all, so there is a lot of negativity going around the social media world right now. I can barely stand to get on Facebook because it makes me so sad. Because of this, I felt like doing a fun not so serious post today to remind me of all the happy and excitement that is still going on. Maybe you can take a quick break from reality with me today. Get excited!

1.) Olympic Fever: I can’t even begin to put into words what a HUGE Olympics nerd I am. I will be glued to my TV the entire time. it really doesn’t matter what sport it is. I just can’t get enough! That being said the two I am most looing forward to are Women’s Gymnastics, and all the volleyball action. I have been deleting things from my DVR to make sure I have space to record all the things.

4.) Birthday girl: Recently my mom asked if I had started planning Emma Kate’s 2nd birthday party. Uhh….no? I can’t believe her birthday is in two months, so I need to get busy. What do you think would be a good theme for a 2 year old?

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3.) News this week: I would really appreciate your prayers on Thursday. We are finding out some information that could be a huge deal for my little family on that evening. That’s all I can share right now, just know it could be really good, or really disappointing, so I’m going to think positive!

4.) 3 months until Disney: Three months from TODAY we will be checking into my happy place for five days of fun! This will be Emma Kate’s first visit, and I can’t wait to see Disney World through her eyes. So much planning still to be done! You can bet there will be some matching shirt action happening as well. Oh just wait my friends. We are so going to be “that family”.

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5.) Affiliate fun: The launch of my eBook is going well, and I would love to offer up something to anyone who is interested. I am opening up an affiliate program for my eBook, where you would earn 35% of every book sold through a unique link I would set up for you. If you are interested, please email me at heather@heatherslookingglass.com and put the word “affiliate” in the subject line. I would also provide you with some photos if you would like to set them up on your blog or use them in social media posts. Let me know!

QOTD: What Olympic event are you most looking forward to watching? Any party theme ideas? Anyone heading to Disney this fall?

5 Things Friday XX

 

1.) I launched my eBook this week! I can’t believe I actually did it. It was always something I wanted to do “one day” but seemed too big and scary. So crazy to me that people are buying something I wrote. You can purchase your copy here.

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2.) On Wednesday night when I got to Bible Study, my tire pressure light was on, and sure enough I had a huge nail in my tire. I was able to put air in it at the gas station so I could get home, and thankfully a friend was able to come by yesterday morning and put air in it again so I could get EK to school and take my car in. Spending almost 2 hours at the tire place wasn’t want I had in mind for my day, but it happens. The weird thing is, this is the second time in 2 months I have had this happen!

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3.) Did you get tea at McAlister’s yesterday for free tea day? I missed my workout at the gym because I was at the tire place, so I did some pushups after getting my lunch at McAlisters. Double win!

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4.) My friend Melissa is hosting a Ballet body bootcamp. It’s a 6 week online bootcamp that combines ballet with traditional fitness. It’s a great way to do something different and mix up your workout routine, learn something you’ve probably never learned before, and increase your flexibility while building lean muscle. Ballet works very different muscles than most workouts, so by combining the two you’re going to hit every muscle in your body. The program also includes a suggested grocery list and free meal planning guide, and I will add clients to my online support and accountability group. Check it out, it sounds cool!

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5.) I completed my first run of the RnR virtual run series yesterday, it was the guitar solo. So much fun!

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Have a great weekend everyone, see ya on Monday!

QOTD: Have you done a virtual run? Ever had a nail in your tire? Have you checked out my eBook?

Average Girl’s Guide Launch Day!

It’s finally here! It’s Average Girl’s Guide LAUNCH DAY! That means if you buy my new eBook RIGHT NOW, then you will get a link in your email at 9:00 am so that you can begin reading!* Heck, you can theoretically have the book read by tonight and get going on making some awesome life changes. I can’t wait to see what y’all think of it!

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I don’t want anyone to have to feel the things I did in the not so distant past when I felt like my world was falling apart. I appeared to have it all together yes, but inside I was miserable, stressed, and feeling sorry for myself. How was I ever going to get out of this pit and reach the goals and dreams I had for myself? Maybe it was too late for me?

Thankfully, I realized it is NEVER TOO LATE and I got my rear in gear. I have by no means arrived and still have some hard days, but I have been able to do so many hard things I never thought possible with just a few quick tips and motivation at the right time. I was so changed that I want to help YOU get there, too. You CAN lose weight. You CAN organize your home, you CAN reach your goals even with a family, and you CAN change the world!

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I am so excited to finally be sharing what I have been working so hard on for the past few months. It’s terrifying to put yourself out there like I have done, but my hope is that it can help, even just one person, to reach for the stars.

I also have some other exciting book related news to share hopefully next week, so stay tuned. My VIP’s on my email list will be the first to know however, so be sure to get on that list so you can know first, too! I hope you all enjoy my eBook!

QOTD: What is something you have always wanted to do but were too scared to try? What ended up happening?

*Please be aware that there may be a few minutes of a delay before the link to my eBook hits your inbox. It shouldn’t be long though!

5 Things Friday XIX

It’s here again! Happy Friday my friends. I hope you all have an amazing weekend. Here are five things for you, and I will see you all on Monday!

1.) eBook pre sale: My eBook pre sale started on my birthday, Wednesday, and the official launch is next Wednesday! I have been so encouraged by everyone who has bought books so far, and I hope you will consider checking it out, too. You can get a free sample chapter here.

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2.) 31 is fun: as I mentioned above, Wednesday I turned 31. A huge thanks for all the comments, messages, texts, and phone calls. I felt like a very special girl. Turning 31 was way less scary than turning 30, by the way!

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3.) Princess again: Speaking of birthdays, I have an amazing and generous friend. Because of her, I will yet again be running the runDisney Princess half marathon! Now, to come up with costumes. Who will I see at the race? (As of 7/14 there are still spots!)

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4.) Run virtually: I am a big lover of the Rock ‘N Roll marathon series. I was super stoked to see that they are now offering a virtual series! You can choose from the 3 races, or do them all and get an extra medal. More bling? Of course! (PS: Don’t forget you can use my code LOOKINGGLASS15 at checkout to save $15 on most races. This includes Vegas (limited spots) and even New Orleans 2017! Woo hoo! So be sure to sign up for an actual race, and then sign up for the virtual run series!

5.) I’m boring: I’m boring and I have no 5th thing today. So instead come up with your own thing and tell me what you want me to know in the comments. Brag, ask a questions, tell a story, go for it!

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It’s My Birthday & a Giveaway

Hola friends. It’s my birthday! It’s my birthday! Birthdays have always been big in my house. Cake, presents, and even eating out of the special birthday plate. (What, you don’t have one?) Today is a VERY special birthday though, because my baby, my eBook that I worked super hard on (and may have cried over a few times) is starting it’s pre sale today, like as in you can pre order it RIGHT NOW!

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ok…. so what are you waiting for? I’ll be here when you get back.

A couple of notes about the pre order just to make sure we are on the same page (pun intended). 1.) Your card/account will not be charged until the 20th, which is when the book will be delivered digitally to your inbox. 2.) The price of the book will go up on the official launch day which is the 20th of July. So don’t miss out on pre sale pricing!

This is my very first digital product, so I will admit I am a little nervous. I really hope you will love the eBook and will be able to sense the effort, time, and love I put into each chapter. I feel that my blog is a platform I use to reach others, and I hope to encourage, inspire, and motivate with The Average Girl’s Guide to Living an Above Average Life.

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I wanted to give the opportunity for two of you to get the eBook totally FREE, since it’s my birthday and all. (Please note, don’t let the giveaway stop you from pre ordering. If you win and have already ordered, I will refund your money via paypal!) Please follow the directions below and good luck! The contest runs from now through July 16th. I will announce the winner Monday morning here on the blog.

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The technical side of this eBook would not be possible without two very special and encouraging people. Katy built my landing page and sells a host of products and services that any blogger would find helpful. Abby (and Donnie) created the Book Boss program that made me feel like I could really actually do this, and I can’t believe it’s finally here. be sure to show them some love!

QOTD: No question today, just go check out my pre sale page and have a great July 13th! It’s a pretty good date if I do say so myself.

My eBook Pre Sale Starts Tomorrow!

Hey guys! Sorry I have been MIA, but let me tell you, getting an eBook launch together is no walk in the park. My eyes started to cross I looked at my laptop screen for so long yesterday! So, get excited, because not only is tomorrow my birthday (which you should of COURSE be excited about!) but it is the launch of my pre sale for The Average Girl’s Guide to Living an Above Average Life.

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So just in case you forgot, the way things will work is that you can start pre ordering for $9.99 tomorrow morning. This pre order will last a week. Then next Wednesday, the official launch day, is when the eBook will hit your inbox if you pre ordered, but also it is when the price will go up. So take advantage of the pre order week! (Make sure you understand that when you pre order, you will NOT have access to the book until the 20th, but are getting in on the lower price). I will be posted on the hashtag #AverageGirlsGuide tomorrow, well, and all week really, so if you want to see what is going on be sure to follow along on Twitter and Instagram.

I am PUMPED and cannot wait for you to read. Some of you may have checked out my landing page last week, which is where you will be able to pre order the eBook tomorrow, but I also wanted to share with you a sample chapter if you would like to kind of get a handle on the tone of the book and how things will go. If you are already on my e-mail list, then you should have gotten an email this morning with instructions on how to access the sample chapter. So, go check right now. If you are not on my list (shame shame…I kid!), you can still get access to the sample chapter for FREE, below:

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If you have any questions about how the pre sale will go tomorrow, be sure to ask away!

PS: You may want to come back to my blog tomorrow because I will be GIVING AWAY two copies of the eBook for my birthday. But don’t worry, go ahead and pre order. If you win the giveaway, I will refund your pre order money via paypal!

QOTD: What is your favorite birthday gift you ever received? You can get me a gift by buying my eBook. See what I did there?!?

5 Things Friday XVIII

Happy Friday! Here are five things for you to start off your weekend.

1.) KIND snacks was nice enough to send me some of their NEW breakfast bars to try out. The are made with 100% whole grains, featuring five super grains – oats, millet, buckwheat, amaranth, quinoa – to keep you going throughout the day. Flavors include: Blueberry Almond, Honey Oat, Dark Chocolate Cocoa, (my fave!) Peanut Butter, and Raspberry Chia.

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2.) Yesterday, Bobby and I were involved in a wreck. We were rear ended when we were stopping at a red light. Thankfully, my Toyota 4Runner is a beast and while it will need some bumper work, it looks way better than the other ladies car. We were all three in the car and are all thankfully ok (and yes I know I need a new car seat.) But it happened on a day when we had multiple appointments to get to so it just kind of threw a kink in the already stressful afternoon. But cars can be fixed, so we are not worried about that.

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3.) Emma Kate had a follow up with the doctor who put her tubes in her ears and he said they looked great! We have to go back again in 6 months but I am so glad we went ahead with the surgery. She was getting infections twice a month and now she has only had two since November.

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4.) You can now book your Disney vacation package for most dates in 2017 (up to 499 days out) and I would love to book for you! Email me at heather@travelwiththemagic.com for a free quote.

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5.) More eBook news coming next week! I can’t wait to share more with you, and a huge thanks to those of you that have offered to help with social media posts during launch week. If you are still interested in doing a social media post for me during the pre sale or launch period, please email me at heather@heatherslookingglass.com

QOTD: Have you ever been rear ended? What is your favorite KIND bar flavor? Are you planning a Disney trip for 2017?

More eBook Information

Hey guys! We are getting closer and closer to the launch, and I am getting really excited to share more eBook information with you! I wanted to share more of it with you today so you will know what is coming. My tentative plan right now is to have a week long pre launch period. That way, you can pre purchase the book at a special price. Then, I will have the actual “launch day”, and pricing will go up a little bit. That day is also when my pre sale buyers will get their copy delivered to their inbox!

I also wanted to share with you the table of contents for the book. If you are a VIP on my e-mail list, then you already got to see the table of contents. Don’t worry, you can sign up for my newsletter if you haven’t already and be the first to see new things, too!

I worked really hard on how to break my eBook down into sections and chapters that flowed together. I wanted everything to make sense!

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Next week, I will be sharing an excerpt from the eBook with my subscribers. I will also be posting here on the blog a little bit more about the content and why I chose to write about what I did.

One more thing. If you are interested in helping me spread the word about my eBook during the presale and/or launch by a blog post mention or social media post, please send me an email at heather@heatherslookingglass.com. I would give you a graphic, hash tags, and even talking points if you would like so there is minimal work on your part. (of course if you want to say more you are welcome to do so!) I would so appreciate your help. I hope to be able to inspire and help as many average feeling ladies as I can, and you can be a part of that! Get excited, it’s almost time!

QOTD: What section are you most excited to read? What books are you reading this summer? What is your favorite eBook written by a blogger?