Accepting a Change of Plans

 

Good morning friends! Well, if you follow me on Twitter, you know this weekend didn’t turn out as planned…..On Thursday afternoon, with my car loaded down, I drove to the new house to meet Bobby and the builders for a final walkthrough, and then we were supposed to close Friday morning, drive to our old house/town, close on Bobby’s dad’s house…(all on Friday.) Then the movers were coming Saturday morning, and we were following them to the new house Saturday afternoon to unload.

Well….I get to the walk through and find out Bobby has already been talking to the builders, and he is pretty mad about something. Huh? Apparently, because of the type of loan we did, the bank won’t release funds for three days. Well, most builders will let you move in anyway…except for ours. We talked to two different high ups in the bank, a closing attorney, and a mortgage/loan officer, who all said the same thing….that it was up to the builder, that most let you move in anyway, and our builders were just being jerks.

We begged, we pleaded, we did everything we could and got the same answer, no. This is the same answer we got when we tried to compromise on ANYTHING with these people. Let’s just say they build a nice house but their customer service sucks and they are liars. We will no be referring them to anyone or ever sing them again. If anyone asks us about them we will be SURE they know the truth about our experience. (rant over, so sorry.)

I honestly had a breakdown. I went into hysterics, and have done a LOT of crying. I am still angry, but trying to let it go and focus on the positive. I get SO bend out of shape when plans change, which they have been doing a lot lately. I am trying to just let go and let God, but, like most things in life, it’s easier said than done.

SO, this is how our weekend looked instead. Thursday night, find out about the evilness of the builders, Friday morning, closed on the house, then drove immediately to central Mississippi to the closing attorney’s office for Bobby’s dad’s house, closed on his house. Went to the chiropractor (FINALLY! he actually laughed while adjusting us we were so bad off!) Saturday we spent the ENTIRE DAY finishing up packing and basically dragging everything we could into the garage, less walking time for the movers, more loading time. We also spend about 5 hours on Sunday finishing up and then making the house look show ready again in case someone came to look at it. Here are a few pictures to show you how much work we did.

Ah, the evil Christmas tree. This tree is 7.5 feet tall and quite fat. For five Christmases we have shoved that box up into the attic and taken it down again. The box is wider than the attic opening, so every year it was an ordeal. It was nice to take it down this weekend knowing we didn’t have to ever put it back up there!

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Found some of my old sports awards in the attic and enjoyed some fun memories thinking back.

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Found bobby’s old trophies which he didn’t want. We decided to take pictures of his trophies to put in his memory box instead of all of the bulky trophies taking up room.

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I did the same thing with my wedding flowers. I had them in a vase in the guest bathroom, not preserved or anything, just shriveled up haha! It was time for them to go, I will admit, I was sad and it was hard for me to do! I took pictures I will print and put with my wedding book.

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So he is pretty much everything from our house except the furniture like beds and dressers, all in the garage.

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Yikes. This is after purging many many times. This was one of my favorite things about the process. We got rid of so many things. It was definitely a process for me. For instance, I would go through my closet and throw out 5 shirts, refusing to let go of another 10. Then I would go back and finally decide to get rid of 5 of the other 10, etc. etc. We gave away a lot of stuff, and also had a lot of trash!

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Bobby got rid of his broken desk chair, but not after flying down the driveway and street in it first.

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…and falling out of it. I missed the wipeout with my camera though.

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It was a GORGEOUS weekend which made working outside very pleasant. All of our trees are in bloom here!

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Please buy my house!!!

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We had a fun weekend despite the circumstances. I hope you enjoyed Michelle’s guest post on Friday. I will have another one next weekend when we try moving, take 2.

Ah, yes, I need to announce a winner for my giveaway! A big thanks to all who entered, I enjoyed hearing what you love about yourselves!

The winner is Jess! comment 48.

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Jess, please e mail me your snail mail info and I will get it out to you! Thanks again and congrats!

QOTD: Do you feel better about yourself when you get rid of stuff in your house?

When Things Don’t Go as Planned

 

Handling adversity is something I have really been trying to work on. (Along with patience.) Adversity is one of those things in life we will all face. ALL. No matter how rich, skinny, pretty, smart, or hardcore you are, it will come into your life in some fashion. The key is not to figure out how to avoid it because well…you can’t. Instead, the key is how you HANDLE it.

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Lately, I have been in a “when things don’t go as planned” funk. I am a very planned out person, and I get extremely bend out of shape when there is a change of plans. I know, it sounds ridiculous, but it’s true. Even the smallest change can send me into a tailspin. I recently learned I get this from my mother (thanks mom!) Who apparently flipped out in Disneyworld recently when there was no parking in the hotel parking lot they were going to look at Christmas decorations in, and instead had to park at a neighboring hotel. I thought to myself… hhmm…”wow mom, that’s a bit much, just park somewhere else.” But I am sure people have thought the things I flip out about were no biggie.

The past few months I have had a LOT of my “plans” get changed, and I have not been handling the adversity as I should. I have had things happen (or not happen) in my life, as well as in my running/healthy living plans that have not made me very happy. For instance, I have yet to run a half marathon injury free. I was hoping Sunday would have been the day, but no dice. I had my heart set on a PR, and when I missed it by seven minutes due to injury, I got REALLY bent out of shape. Yes, yes, there will be other races, you can’t PR every time, blah blah blah. I did NOT want to hear it. At that moment, if you would have asked me to sign up for a race I would have said I am never running a half marathon again. GASP. I know, how awful of me to think it, but it was true. I don’t feel that way now, but I still am feeling a little burnt out.

We were supposed to close on our new home this Friday, but it is not going to happen until next week. I was so excited about being in my new house and living with my husband again after being apart since October. (I am really getting sick of living without him by the way.)

We had an offer on our house we are trying to sell last week. They made an offer, a very low offer, and we countered, with a VERY generous offer. I got excited thinking it was a done deal. They came back wanting even more (it was ridiculous all of the demands they were making) and we made the decision to say no thanks unless they took our counter offer.

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There are some other things going on I am not really at liberty to talk about right now, but just trust me on this one. There is a LOT going on, and a LOT of things are not going my way. My first instinct when dealing with adversity is to pout. I get the whole woe is me attitude, it’s not a pretty sight. I got into one of those moods this morning, and I decided instead of dwelling on the adversity in my life right now, I would think of ways to get out of my funk.

1.) Talk it out. Keeping things bottled up inside is a surefire way to explode one day when you least expect it. Try to talk to someone outside the situation, who will listen attentively and be a shoulder to lean on. Make sure you tell them up front if you are looking for advice/feedback or just someone to listen.

2.) Think about the positive things in your life. I know it seems cheesy, but it really helps me. Instead of dwelling on the negative, think of the positive. I’m healthy, I have a loving family, and sweet puppies. We have food on the table every night, and a house to live in. When I start to shift my thinking, I realize how truly blessed I really am!

3.) Realize that YOU have control over your attitude. You have a choice in how you feel. I try to remind myself to not let me emotions get the best of me. When something does not go according to plan, I do NOT have to freak out. I can choose not to stress about things! Just make the choice (I know, easier said than done.)

4.) Realize that life is a journey. Barring getting hit by a bus tomorrow, life is going to have its valleys and mountains. It is highly unlikely that my current problems are going to last forever. Try and see the light at the end of the tunnel, and try not to look at your problem as a never ending cycle.

5.) Plan something fun. Even when my life is crazy and not going my way, if I have something to look forward to, a “bright spot,” then it helps me get through the problems I am facing. A weekend getaway or a girls night may be just what you need to snap you out of your funk.

6.) Don’t give up. If there is some goal you are trying to reach, like say a race PR, or to get out of debt, do not give up! Even if you face adversity, it can make you stronger if you have the right attitude. Will I run another half marathon? Of course. I will keep training and trying to reach my goal. Take THAT adversity!

Some things may not be going as planned, and I may not be able to control the situations, but I CAN control how I react to them!

**Side note: These are some practical ways to handle adversity. As a Christian, I also have some other tips for dealing with my problems. If you are interested in hearing about them, feel free to e mail me at runningwithsass@gmail.com and I would love to share!